This is going to be a quickie because I must get out the door, but a woman named Tracy Young, who I don’t know, just posed a comment on Facebook which I thought was spot-on.

She was responding to a call from the editor of More magazine, for which I blog, to tweet your age, thus breaking the age taboo. Basically the passage-of-time version of “We’re Here, We’re Queer, Get Used to It.” Lesley, the editor, had cited examples of foxy fab faves like JLo and JenA turning 40 as “older” women who can inspire us to be loud and proud about our not-youngness.

Tracy put it quite nicely:

“I love how there’s OK old, like 40…and NOT OK old, like, well, anything over 50. How about 60? Is that still taboo?If we actually believed that age was irrelevant, not to mention NOT TABOO, we wouldn’t have to rock it, tweet it. or even discuss it.

Is this a female problem? Or a women’s magazine problem? I don’t see men bothering with this subject, altho sitting down for a beer photo op seems pretty dopey too.”

Indeed it does. But she’s right. This incredible woman I interviewed for my book, possibly one of the best reporters I’ve ever worked with as an editor, agreed to speak with me about her body image issues, but would only cop to “over 40.” She is not ashamed of being over 40–not in the least. She just didn’t want to get into the whole, as she put it, “42 is OK, 43, even. But 45, that’s old. And 46, that’s pushing 50.” And I knew exactly what she meant!

(My book isn’t going to cite ages, except where a precise age–like, whether you were 16 or 18 when Borderline came out, which of course can make a huge difference in your pop cultural outlook–is germane to what’s being said.)

The whole thing is so dumb. We can say 40 is the new 30 and 60 is the new 40 all we want, but what’s the point if it’s not OK to be what you are when you are what you are? Because you will always be something that is chronologically older than you wish, and you will hopefully never feel as old as you are.

In short, what-EV! I’m 42, for what it’s worth. I suspect that’s now considered too young to help break down any taboos, but there you have it. I hope it helps!