This is my daughter Vivian. And I quote: “Beautiful red bra on the book cover. Actual bra. Boring.”
This is my daughter Vivian. And I quote: “Beautiful red bra on the book cover. Actual bra. Boring.”
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August 8, 2010 at 3:07 pm
All of my bras look exactly like that. I think a red bra would only accentuate my spider veins. : {
August 8, 2010 at 7:12 pm
Your blog lamenting your loss of “hotness” confirms for me my suspicion of how vain and narcisssitic many women are. You seek out the rest of the world only to verify your “hotness” and you are lost when the world no longer gives it to you. For the vain women whose self-concept is all wrapped up in their looks, I feel bad for you. I guess a sturdy character never enters your mind as a life priority, only your “hotness.”
I think that exhibitionism is the one universal female fetish. The only real reason you want men around is to serve your vanity and boost your ego. Women like you bombard men with every conceivable visual sexual stimuli, then denounce men as sex obsessed pigs when they respond. But dont worry, we all become invisible to the opposite sex eventually. I’m sorry it pains you so.
August 9, 2010 at 2:04 am
I love this! It really cracked me up.
And Bob, please desist from telling women what they should and shouldn’t do/think/be. How do you think this situation arose in the first place?
August 13, 2010 at 11:38 pm
Bravo, Bob! We’re supposed to feel sorry that this formerly hot blogger cannot use her looks to manipulate people as a strategy for success? Aww, poor baby. All those men you sh*t on are now welcome to wolf whistle? Please. Ladies, listen up because I’m about to drop some truth on your Oprah-obsessed minds. Please pay attention because you will rarely hear anyone tell you something so real and honest. Ahem.
Pre-35, you have all the power. For centuries, men have fought wars over beautiful, YOUNG women. The world is your oyster and you can truly have whatever you want (provided you’re attractive, that is). High five, you go girl, etc.
Post-35, you have ZERO SOCIAL VALUE. Why? Because the only thing that is valued about you is your looks and youth. Once that is gone, you’re toast. There’s nothing left. Your beta-male husbands may cherish you, your kids and family will surely adore you, but to the rest of society, you might as well no longer exist. You have nothing society wants, nothing to offer. Keep in mind, this is the game you played with gusto when you were on the winning side. Remember how you acted all high and mighty in your 20’s, blowing off all those nice guys in favor of hooking up with that Latino hunk or biker dude, who you knew was a tool, but wanted to fulfill your fantasy of being one of the characters on Sex and the city?
For men, it’s the exact opposite. The ONLY thing that men are valued for is our assets — our ability to provide for women and children. Most men do not have the financial or intellectual means to do this when we are young, but it increases each and every year of our lives. Men BECOME hot when we hit about 35-40 and it only gets better from there. Our social value increases every year, which is why nobody has a problem with older men dating younger women — they are of equal social value, she for her looks and beauty (the only thing that matters) and he for his money (ditto). Sure, you can become a shallow cougar a la your heroine Samantha from SATC, but a desperate, straw-grasping easy lay is something any woman (or man for that matter) can accomplish. No one wants you for more than a quick bang and then it’s back to the 19-year-olds.
I know you’ll get all Oprah on me and condemn everything I’ve written and fall all over yourselves telling me that I’m a sexist pig, blah blah blah. Don’t hate me — I didn’t invent what society values in men and women, we all did. You contributed to this “game” just as much as anyone, but do know that once you hit about 35, maybe 40 if you’re really lucky, the game is over for you.
I will be shocked if this comment is left up, if only because it gets right to the heart of the matter, and tells you a truth that you simply do not want to believe — women over 35-40 have zero value to society.
August 15, 2010 at 7:25 am
As posted on my blog: http://ceilidhontherun.com/?p=456
If for no other reason than to support Steph for writing a book that stirred up this kind of energy and lead ignoramuses like BB (coments on Steph’s blog here) to show himself for what a despicably insecure idiot he can be, I will be buying a copy of My Formerly Hot Life.
At the age of 35 (and looking good for my 35 years, I might add), according to BB, I am now on the slippery downhill slope to zero value. Huh!
Wow. Aside from the “power” I supposedly experienced as a younger self who was hot and well – young, I can think of far greater value that women like myself have experienced that are certainly worth celebrating, and offer a little reason for grieving the formerly hot life in a way… Being of the prime age for reproduction, as a for instance, is a responsibility that once was considered by other ignorant individuals of society to be the only real value of a young woman. And however much we lament the suggestion today that young women have no other value than their looks and their abilities to procreate with greater biological odds, women – the life givers, the carriers of the next generation DO become far more powerful as they age, just as do some men.
Ask any child what sort of value their mother has, and they can put into the simplest of words and expressions the most complex concept: that their 35plus-year-old-mother rocks this world! And for those women who have not yet had children by the time they reach that magical number of 35, whether by choice or otherwise, women (like the ever powerful man) become more powerful in their financial assets and ability to provide for their families, selves and society as they age. Yep, you heard me right BB, women also earn higher incomes, and accumulate greater knowledge as they age – and will continue to do so.
However, to suggest that women in general EVER had power and privilege surpassing that of men at any stage of their lives is a farce. How many women (young or otherwise) do we see elected to powerful positions? Yet we make up more than half of the overall population. How many women continue to work for less pay than that of their male counterparts in the exact same level of work? I suspect, if we were to look closely at women before the age of 35 in comparison to men of the same, and again at women over 35 compared to men of the same, we will find that the income gap is smaller in the older group than the younger. What power is there in that for young women?
As for the suggestion that young women hold such power that men that will go to war over them/us… is that act of war not in fact more an expression of the man’s power over the woman and desire to possess rather than celebrate her? Speaking from my own experiences, men who behaved in such manner were as far from my younger formerly hot self as I could keep them.
August 15, 2010 at 10:07 am
Stephanie here: just want to call your attention to the more recent Angry Formerly Dude post.
August 17, 2010 at 4:46 pm
First time on website… What a wonderful litte girl. Kids no matter what you do they can always bring you back down to earth. This time with a push up 🙂
August 17, 2010 at 5:39 pm
I’m TEMPTED to write a well-thought-out scathing reply to BB, but the more I think about it, the more I’m sure it would fly so far over his short, balding head that I’d be wasting my time!!
So, hear this BB: YOU are not only unattractive on the outside, but you’re so damn angry about it that you’re unattractive on the inside as well!! You obviously believe that your growth in income will bring you…a female companion, but it seems like you’ll have a very low opinion of her if that ever happens.
Keep your anger where it belongs: bottled up inside you!