DENISE IN SF WROTE: Well, what I can tell you is that I wasn’t hot in my 20s. I was fat and insecure, but still pretty. In my 40’s I turn more heads and feel fantastic. Everyone who disagrees with you is not a “hater.” But I would say your little gimmick is pretty stupid. Anyone, anywhere who feels the need to pigeonhole women into tidy little categories is adding to the problem. And you do not look like Julia or Julia! You’re not saying I can’t be hot? Gee, thanks! But some of us have never considered tacky Diesel leather skirts “hot.” Sexy can be a beautiful shift that fits close to the body, etc. You seem like the kind of person who would describe a woman in her 40s as “still having a great figure.” Like it is some kind of a shock or something. Oh, well, I’m sure you’re making money, which was the whole idea, right? Another contribution to our dumbed down society. Great!
Denise in SF
August 30, 2010 at 8:31 am
so, what she is actually saying is that she is a formerly, fat & insecure 20-something and now she is a finally hot 40-something, like it or not, she seems to have fallen right into a “tidy little category”
August 30, 2010 at 10:10 pm
(btw you totally do look like a cross between the Julias!) Denise in SF has obviously missed the point- she actually reinforces your point with her supposed attack on you. Whether conventionally beautiful in our youth or not, what being a Formerly is about (to me) is the sexiness that comes with getting to know yourself, and of being comfortable in your own skin (or, in a shift.) HELLOOO, isn’t that what Formerly Hot is all about, the redefinition of ‘hot’ ??
August 31, 2010 at 7:55 am
I think Denise left her sense of humor at home……..or possibly never had it in the first place. Keep doing what you’re doing Stephanie. there are more of us who “get you” and what you’re saying and doing, than those who don’t. If you can’t laugh at yourself, you’re going to have a long, boring life ahead of you.
August 31, 2010 at 10:08 am
OMG…are you serious? Women who can’t lighten up and think that anyone, anywhere who has a little fun with being a woman is “adding to the problem” hasn’t learned that she IS the problem…so happy to be comfortable in my own skin…LOVE being a woman, have NEVER felt I was a “victim” of the cruel, male society…and I LOVE your “little gimmick” Stephanie! Absolutely love it!
September 1, 2010 at 8:52 pm
Geez! Some one sure knows how to suck all the fun out of a book that is obviously meant to help shed some humor on the fact that…GUESS WHAT CHICKADEES?? We are getting older!! No matter how “hot” you may think you are at 40 (and I’m sure you are), you too are getting older missy from SF. And you know what?? It’s alot better than the alternative! Reading your post was like drinking a martini without the vodka. What’s the point? there’s no fun in it!
September 3, 2010 at 5:46 pm
Girls that were not popular in earlier years are still bitter about it in their 40’s.